People celebrate all milestones, but divorces have been missing a ritual until recently. A divorce party is the chance to have fun and enjoy yourself while going through a difficult time. Celebrate this new chapter in your life and feel empowered with a breakup party. Keep reading for divorce party ideas that will make a new divorcée feel supported and excited about the future.

Matching Your Breakup Personality
Everyone deals with breakups differently so divorce parties can have a variety of themes. Choose a theme that matches your breakup personality. Don’t feel like going out? Host a spa day for your divorce party and focus on pampering yourself. Other divorce party ideas include transformation and new beginnings, survivor, martini night, wife goes on, I do. I did. I’m done, or something a little mischievous like Axe the Ex.

Support Group
A divorce party is a time to be surrounded by close friends and caring figures. Avoid inviting children or work colleagues to the divorce party. Stick to the people who have been there through the ups and downs of the relationship and know how to make the divorcée feel better. Inviting other divorced guests to the divorce party can give the divorcée a trusted support group.

Adding Flair to your Divorce Party
Use similar phrasing from a wedding invitation for the divorce party invitation. “I, Jane Smith, cordially invite you to…” Keep invitations light and funny, you don’t want to scare anyone off. Continue the anti-wedding, divorce party theme by decorating with “Just Divorced” signs instead of “Just Married.” Don a “Just divorced” sash that can be made or bought online (like this Divorced Diva sash). At the bachelorette party, you may have worn a white dress and a white veil. For your divorce party, wear red or black with a red or black veil. A supply you may need is a divorce party favor. A fun idea that guests will use is lip gloss with the label reading “kiss this marriage goodbye.” Keep the divorce party lively and create a playlist of your favorite breakup songs. (Try “Since you’ve been gone” by Kelly Clarkson, “Irreplaceable” by Beyonce, “I Will Survive” by Gloria Gaynor, and “You Oughta Know” by Alanis Morissette.)

Play Around
Throw in elements of a bachelorette party into your divorce party, but with a twist, and play games. Pin the nose on the ex is a great example if the divorcée doesn’t mind having a large picture of the ex on the wall at the divorce party. Everyone has their own reasons for getting a divorce. At your divorce party, write down all these problems and annoying things your ex did on a piece of paper. Having close friends as guests means that they know your ex also and can participate in the list. What to do with the list is your choice. Burn, shred, or bury it as a way of letting go of the past and forgetting all the negativity. Didn’t have a trash the dress session for your wedding? A divorce party gives you a second chance to destroy your wedding dress with the help of your closest friends. A tamer divorce party activity is to write divorce vows to sign in front of the guests. Like wedding vows, divorce vows contain hopes for the future, but are also a way of letting go of the past.


Warnings: Don’t destroy divorce papers because they may be needed for legal reasons. Don’t destroy wedding pictures because children may cherish these later in life.

Let Them Eat Cake (Again)
For your divorce party, take one of the most important elements of a wedding and make it into something different. Divorce party cakes come in a variety of looks. Some examples are a cake similar to the one at your wedding but with graffiti written over it, a bride cake topper pushing the husband, upside down cakes with groom’s feet sticking out from bottom, cakes split in two, or just a bride alone. If you’re trying to avoid negativity at your divorce party, the cake can have best wishes for the divorcée instead. Unfortunately cake can’t be the only food served at a divorce party. Take this time to enjoy your favorite comfort foods and eat whatever you like. It’s your chance to be free. Some divorce party inspired menu options are ale-imony, split pea soup, and freedom fries.

Depending on the size of your divorce party, consider hiring an event planner to aid you in your arrangements. You may also want to take a look at Snappening’s venue search to determine the best location options for your divorce party.

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